Ways to Manage Corona Virus Stress
Along, I suspect, with most of you, I’m feeling a bit stressed and worried about the Corona virus (Covid-19). Just to be clear, this is posted in the early days of it taking centre stage in the UK. Everyone has their own story to tell about how it is affecting their lives, finances and well-being. Being stranded at an airport, quarantined from family and friends; feeling ill and being unsure whether it is Corona Virus or not are just a few of the multitude of concerns that people are experiencing.
In our family both girls have had to return from university and leave their friends behind and courses unfinished; we’re feeling super sad about my dad being in a care home with a broken leg, so unable to have mum or the rest of the family visit; and for me personally my Saint Mick of Thana is in Thailand and I am many thousands of miles away in Broughton. My family all understand the need to self-isolate and have kept up to date with the advice, but it is still stressful.
Strategies for Managing Corona Virus Stress
Anyone who knows me will be aware that I’m a bit of a stress cadet at the best of times, so this post is as much therapy for me as it is anything else. I’m hoping it might help others though too, please do comment and share your own tips for managing stress. These are the ideas that I’ve come up with:
Summing up of Ways to Manage Stress
OK, I better stop as this list of ways to manage stress could go on and on. For me, writing this has made me feel a little bit calmer. Producing this blog post was at the top of my list for managing my stress and I can vouch that having a goal and achieving it, however small, does work. Thank you for reading the post!! I also wrote down that I should try and write something funny too, but I’m not sure I’m quite at that point yet.
I guess my final tip for stress management is to accept it is ok to be worried and anxious and that to own the stress and take any steps to reduce it, is worth a self-congratulatory pat on the back!
Book Review of The Man Who Didn't Call by Rosie Walsh
On the front of my copy of Rosie Walsh's The Man who Didn't Call is a quote by Liane Moriarty saying "I absolutely loved this book.". I can see why she enjoyed it as the ingredients are similar to those we might find in one of Moriarty's own books: a head over heels romance, combined with a seemingly unsolvable situation, and a mystery that needs uncovering. It is also a page turner with a (spoiler) happy ending!
The story begins with what turns out to be a seemingly 'too good to be true' romance between Sarah and Eddie. As Eddie already had a holiday planned, he decides to go anyway and promises to contact Sarah upon his return. Sarah waits for contact but none comes, as from the moment of Eddie's return, Sarah is 'ghosted (the American name of the novel) by Eddie. The rest of the novel revolves around the reader first uncovering why she has been ghosted' by Eddie (plenty of clues are given along the way) before watching how things will finally unfold.
Book Discussion Questions for The Man Who Didn't Call by Rosie Walsh
Book Club Questions for The Man Who Didn't Call (If you haven't read the book!)
Summing up of Rosie Walsh's The Man Who Didn't Call
The Man who Didn't Call is an enjoyable quick read with plenty of spine tingling intrigue and tear-jerking romance. The plot holds together well and the characters are well rounded. Stylistically it is a quick and easy read that would be great to take on holiday.
All my friends and family know that I love reading. As my blog title Book and Family Chat suggests I love all things book related. There's no doubt that Book deserves to be in the same sentence as family, though I probably should change the order of the wording of my blog to Family and Book Chat!
If I've got a lot on my mind I read 'easy' books that are quick to read and to settle into if I'm a bit more chilled I'll tackle some more 'challenging' books. I enjoy writing book reviews on all kind of books and all types of reading related issues. I enjoy writing bookclub questions for people in bookclubs. In fact, I can't remember the last time I didn't have a book on the go.
Being back home in Bangkok with Mick this trip has afforded me time during the day to spend some time reading. I have a bit of a passion for African literature which I'm indulging in right now.
I do find, though generally speaking, that constantly having my head in a book can get me into trouble. Allegedly booklovers and bookworms have some quite annoying habits!
Booklovers Annoying Habits
Do you have Annoying Reading Habits?
I should say that I accept that some of the above may well be annoying reading habits, but I am sure that I don't have any of them - well maybe one or two! I have plenty to say about the benefits of reading but I'm sure that can't be annoying! I wonder, do you have any annoying reading habits? If so what are they?
Expat Life in Bangkok
What a week it has been! Another long haul flight, another set of tough goodbyes and another lovely re-union with my Saint Mick of Thana. For the next ten days I will be back to living life as an expat!
Dad and mum constantly make me proud to be their daughter. They manage what seems to be one thing after another, digging deep and always encouraging me to focus on my life and not to worry about them. “Your place is in Bangkok with your husband” is a phrase I’ve heard more than a few times in recent months! As such, I’m having a quick visit (longer than the two days I managed in January before dad’s accident!) to my Bangkok home.
I’ve mentioned before how living with one foot in the ‘expat world’ and one foot in (Miranda alert), what I call the ‘real world’ has alerted my senses to reflecting on the pros and cons of both lifestyles. Luckily for me I feel immense gratitude, that in both worlds, are family I love being with. That’s not to say that I don’t wish the flying time between Bangkok and Broughton was a little bit shorter!
Benefits of Expat Life
Disadvantages of being an Expat
Summing Up Advantages and Disadvantages of Expat Life
Overall, I think the advantages of expat living outweigh the disadvantages. This particularly applies in professions such as teaching where, during the holidays, there is time to explore exciting travel opportunities and seek adventure, or alternatively spend time with family back in home number one.
I continue to be torn between ‘expat life’ and ‘real life’. I do miss my Saint Mick a lot and not having my strong female friends close by is pretty hard when I’m back in the UK, but on the other hand, being away from my parents is hard when I’m back here! I love the lifestyle expat living affords and coming back to Bangkok feels like coming home. However, I also love being back in my other home - the same village I grew up in where I have a shared history with family, friends and neighbours, that an expat can never really have. (I’ve even heard myself being gossiped about in the post office!) Weirdly, although I enjoy all the perks and benefits of expat life, which I’ve highlighted above when I’m here, I don’t really miss these perks when I’m not. A large portion of fish and chips from the local fish and chip shop makes up for a lot!
Book Review of Grown Ups by Marian Keyes
I simply cannot make my mind up about Marian Keyes. Rather like a packet of twiglets I begin reading with a premise that I don’t especially enjoy her books, but I then keep going back for more. Her latest title Grown Ups (which I have already blogged about briefly) has had this twiglet effect on me. I didn’t really enjoy the first 100 or so pages of Grown Ups and thought that Keyes was introducing far too many characters too quickly. I also thought her shifts in in time were a little awkward and jarring to the flow of reading. Then I decided I was being picky and I settled happily into reading the mid section of it. Once invested, I then had to stay up until 2.00 a.m. to read the final 200 or so pages as I simply couldn’t bear to put it down. Grown Ups went from a snack I could take or leave to a guilty feast that I had to devour there and then.
So a mixed response on my part .... I do think that Keyes tends to include too much dialogue in her books. I guess this is how she ‘shows’ rather than ‘tells’, but it reaches a point where it is intrusive. Whilst there is nothing wrong with some element of soul searching, self-revealing chat in any novel there’s no need to spell absolutely everything out for us. (We readers can infer and intuit!) Having said that Keyes books are so successfully representative of contemporary life that it is impossible not to forgive her for this occasional sledgehammer approach. Keyes' observations are incredibly astute and so perceptive that the reader is left pondering and worrying about the characters and their lives as if they are actual friends and neighbours. I don’t know what the magic writing ingredient Keyes has but I found this happened to me, not only when I read Grown Ups, but also when I read The Break. The issues explored kept entering my thoughts literally months after I’d finished reading
Grown Ups somewhat ironically named, explores the family relationships of the three Casey brothers. Keyes uses the brothers as a backbone around which to structure the book, but the focus is equally on their wives, children, nephews and nieces. There’s the eldest brother Johnny, a good-looking extroverted, moderately successful business and family man, who finds himself in the midst of something like a mid-life crisis. Next is middle brother Ed. Seemingly ordinary his love for his wife is unwavering and solid. Ed demonstrates an unnerving depth of understanding about life. Finally, there is spoilt brat youngest brother Liam - womaniser, selfish-pig and borderline paedophile, he has little going for him.
Keyes is never one to shy away from difficult issues and in this book bulimia is explored with skill and sensitivity. It helps the readers (as bystanders and observers to the action) understand what those with the illness go through. What doesn’t work so well is Keyes', at times, clumsy and unlikely plotting. In Grown Ups Keyes creates an unlikely scenario where one of the characters becomes concusse. This plot detail is set up as a device to enable. Clara to share unwelcome truths about her relatives.. She exposes family members for who they really are and so keeps the story moving forward. I'm afraid didn't find this tool for developing plot convincing or realistic, but perhaps, on the other hand, that doesn't really matter.
Book Discussion Questions for Marian Keyes' Grown Ups
In the book Ed leaves Clara when she stops seeking medical help for her bulimia. Do you think this was the correct course of action for him to take? Why or why not?
Liam and Nell marry quickly, but separate after less than a year of marriage? Nell reflects that the marriage was never likely to last and that she entered it knowing it wasn’t a forever marriage. What is your view of this attitude? Does it affect how you view Nell?
Who is your favourite character in the book and why?
Towards the end of the book Johnny claims that he never considered reigniting a romantic relationship with his ex lover? Do you believe him? Why or why not?
Jess is very upset about her 50th birthday celebrations. To what extent do you think she is right to be angry and hurt?
Who has the most solid relationship in the book? Why?
After Rory died Jess’ in-laws never forgave her for marrying his best friend. Why? How would you sum up the relationship between Jess, Rory and Johnny?
Does the menopause feature in ‘Grown Ups’? If so, how and when? Is this question only acceptable coming from a middle-aged woman? Discuss!
How is the ability to communicate effectively shown as a key life skill in the book?
Book Club Questions for Grown Ups (if you haven't read the book!)
Super organised mum, businesswoman and family organiser Jess admits to herself that her teenage years were ones of insecurity and self-doubt. She sees the same traits in her daughter. To what extent do our teenage experiences form our adult selves?
Clara has to eat little and often in order to ‘manage’ her bulimia. Alcoholics can stop drinking completely. Discuss whether all addictions are equal?
Some people love large family get-togethers and others hate them. What about you?
Marian Keyes commented in a recent interview that her writing has developed over the years and that in her earlier novels her male characters were less well developed than now. What does this reveal about her, her readers and today’s world?
Marian Keyes writes long books but they are fairly quick to read. The chapters are quite short, there’s plenty of dialogue and the plots are driven by realism and relevance. What five ingredients do you think an excellent book should contain.
The age gap between Nell and Ferd is less than the age gap between Nell and Liam, yet the former seems far more significant to Nell’s sense of what is appropriate. How important a factor is age in relationships, both to the individuals in it and onlookers!
Keyes makes passing reference to contemporary issues such as Brexit, but, by and large, the novel focuses more on familial emotional relationships than society. This contrasts with other current releases, e.g. Jonathan Coe’s Middle England. How much context do you enjoy when reading contemporary realistic fiction?
Keyes has sold over 35 million books, yet she comes across as modest and unassuming. To what extent do you think ‘money’ changes an individual?
Summing Up of Marian Keyes' Grown Ups
In Grown Ups the reader is encouraged to take on the role of voyeur and nosy neighbour of an extended family. There is plenty to see as the Caseys are a sociable crowd inclined to partake of dinner parties, extravagent weekends away and meet-ups. The book ends with us wondering what the different individuals will ‘get up to’ next. We feel empathy for the suffering of some of the Casey family; we dislike others, but significantly we relate to all and see bits of ourselves in them. Whilst we might nit-pick and find fault with aspects of Keyes’ writing she manages to keep us hooked. 35 million book sales speaks for itself.
Keyes' understanding of addiction is often mentioned in reviews written about her, and she seems happy to discuss her own alcoholism. In Keyes' recent interview on the Fortunately Podcast this crops up. Keyes talks bout how bulimia can be more challenging than alcoholism as everyone has to eat.. The podcast is well worth a listen to. It is in this interview that Keyes also made the comment that she doesn’t read male authors. She later withdrew this claim, but nevertheless … interesting!